- Playing – The Last of Us Remastered
- Listening to – Broken Bells
- Watching – Ed
This past weekend my son, Elliott, turned two months old. It doesn’t seem like a massive passage of time but the scope in which my life has changed in those two months is indescribable. Those of you who are dads know about that fundamental shift in your life, but it’s hard to put into words just how things are changed when you become ‘Dad’.
Watching my son grow and change a little each and every day, I can’t help but wonder what he’s going to be like when he’s older. I wonder about his personality, what his voice will sound like, how he’ll cut his hair. And I also think about what kind of influence I’m going to have on all of that.
For me, growing up without a Dad in the house, I learned a lot of life lessons from what I didn’t have. My Mom had to be both parents and my two older brothers were the only male influence I had. My mom taught me about right and wrong, being just and fair, and trying to be the best person I could be. My brothers taught me about comics, Star Wars and video games. You know, the important stuff. Who I am today is very much a product of what I was exposed to growing up, both good and bad, and I think about that a lot now that there is a very young man in my home experiencing life as a clean slate.
It’s an incredible power and responsibility that is ahead of both my wife and myself. The things that interest us, like music, movies and even games, are going to influence him throughout his life. It’s kind of scary to think that by us just being Mom and Dad we will shape the very fabric of Elliott’s personality. He’s going to look up to us, and if we’re lucky he’s going to want to be like us too.
So much more than just his interests, however, I have to think about how we’re going to impact his outlook on life. The things that we do and the lessons that we instill in Elliott are going to last a lifetime. So I have to lay the foundation now for who I want this little person to think I am. I have to work so hard to be the man that I want Elliott to want to become. I guess that’s really the end goal to successful parenting, to create someone who is a part of you, but better than you could ever hope to be.
It is the greatest honor of my life to raise Elliott, and I want to ensure that he has everything he needs to become the best person that he can be.
He’s off to a good start. He’s already the best person I know.